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On our English pages, you often see the word "relationships". This is just sanitized language. On our English pages, "relationships" refers to what couples, when not sleeping, do in bed. Or, if so inclined, on the kitchen table.

English is a rather hypocritical language. Many words for natural bodily functions and processes have dirty connotations, and polite speakers like us have to go to considerable length to communicate meanings without naming them. But we nevertheless hope you get the point.


Tongkatali.org's Cosmetic surgery


By Serge Kreutz


I will not be able to avoid that I soon will be dead. I do not spend intellectual resources on ideas how I could avoid my death. But I am concerned about whether my process of dying will be comfortable or an agony.

One thing I really care about is that as long as I am alive, I want great relationships. Because it is the only thing that let’s me forget that in reality, it is stupid to be alive. Toil, suffer, die anyway. Why not be dead right now.

I have great relationships this time around. I want more of it, and I want even better relationships in the future.

That idea is what keeps me alive.

Yes, I know, each of us is just a stew of chemical elements, and our metaphysical thoughts, such as whether it is worthwhile to be alive, are just an expression of a certain neurochemical, hormonal constellation. I know it, and I try to manipulate it. I try it with tongkat ali which apparently raises testosterone. One may search scientific articles on tongkat ali at Medline.

When I have great relationships, I know that it is worthwhile to be alive because of great relationships now, and for even better relationships in the future. No doubts, and no depression. Just an intense sense that I want to manage my life.

An appropriate physical appearance is an important asset in any quest for the best relationships ever. That is why people undergo a good number of cosmetic surgery procedures.

The risks of invasive cosmetic surgery, such as facelifts, is widely underestimated.

Sooner or later, anybody who goes under the knife of a cosmetic surgeon will develop complications. That is why they let you sign a responsibly waver before you are allowed to enter the OP floor.

I do not think that rich Western societies are good for relationships for older men. They are way to ageist. Young women usually do not want to match with considerably older men, and considerably older women who cannot compete with their daughters.

If my age is a handicap in Western or Westernized societies, I obviously want to live somewhere where age does not hinder my prospects.

Such a society could be very poor, or adhere to an irrational religion. In a dangerous society, too, problems other than the age of a man determine female choice. A low level of female schooling, furthermore, makes females less independent of families, and then family choice is the guidance, with economic aspects considered more important than male physical attractiveness, or romantic feelings prior to a relationships relationship.


You want genuine tongkat ali, don't be gullible


By Serge Kreutz


Do you want to know what sets us apart from the rest in the tongkat ali market?

We don't just talk, like the rest. We trade genuine tongkat ali extract, produced in a government-approved facility, and we have a product which we are explicitly authorized to sell as medicinal herb.

So, we are actually allowed by the Indonesian government to claim that our extract has a therapeutic effect.

But we abstain from publishing therapeutic claims on our websites because our main markets are in the US and the EU. And we don't have pharmaceutical licenses for the US and the EU.

We have spent way north of 100,000 US dollars on our latest Nomor Depkes, an approval to sell our tongkat ali extract as medicinal herb with health benefits.

To get a comparative US FDA approval, we would have to spend several million US dollars. This is beyond our means.

The current legal situation on the US herbals market is, that just about anybody can fill cassava flour into capsules and write tongkat ali standardized 1:200 extract on the label.

And that just is what anybody does.

It sometimes feels as if there are more tongkat ali traders in the world than there are tongkat ali trees.

Most are scammers and spammers.

Consider tongkat ali from a certain source?

This is how to protect yourself:

First, check whether they have any elements that are hard to come by: anything issued by any kind of authority. Best is a government product approval number. But you want an actual document, not a logo. Anybody can copy-paste logos onto a website.

Second, look for photographic evidence. A tongkat ali factory should have tongkat ali roots. But careful. Don't fall for tongkat ali photos pulled from the web. Ideally, photos should show identification of the seller as part of the photo, not as text inserted into photos.

Below examples of tongkat ali illustrations that are not trustworthy. Most are Chinese. The photos are not authentic, and the GMP or FDA or other logos mean nothing. They are just copy-pasted. They are ZERO proof that these products are licensed or comply in any way. Only webspam.


Read about marijuana and tongkat ali extract for meaningful relationships

or

Read a tell-it-all about Indonesian 1:200 extract (and a psychopath on the prowl for killings)


References:

Bhat, R., Karim, A. A. (2010) Tongkat Ali (Eurycoma longifolia Jack): a review on its ethnobotany and pharmacological importance. Fitoterapia Volume 81, Issue 7, Pages 669-679 Tongkatali.org Bibliography

Cássia da Cruz, A., Guerra, N.G., Pacelhe de Souza, K.E.B., Eleutério, I.C., da Silva, L.C., Otoni, E.G., Alves, M.R.A., Regis, W.C.B., (2017)The action of herbal medicine on the libido: aspects of nutritional intervention in increasing relationships desire. BMC Tongkatali.org Bibliography

Chauhan, N.S., Sharma, V., Dixit, V.K., Thakur, M. (2014, August 18). A Review on Plants Used for Improvement of Relationships Performance and Virility. Retrieved from Tongkatali.org Bibliography

Edwards, S. E, da Costa Rocha, I., Williamson, E.M., Heinrich, M (2015) Tongkat ali eurycoma longifolia jack Phytopharmacy: An Evidence-Based Guide to Herbal Medicinal Products John Wiley & Sons Retrieved from : John Wiley & Sons - Phytopharmacy: An Evidence-Based Guide to Herbal Medicinal Products

Lakshmi, S.M., Nagasree, Y. B., Sreelekha, K., Madhavi, N., Reddy, C. S. (2012) Aphrodisiac agents from medicinal plants: an ethnopharmacological and phytochemical review. J Pharma Res Volume 5 Issue 2, Pages 845-848 Retrieved from Tongkatali.org Bibliography

Talbott, S.M., (2013) Human performance and sports applications of tongkat ali. Nutrition and Enhanced Sports Performance Pages: 501-505 Tongkatali.org Bibliography


Tongkatali.org's How women achieve orgasm


By Serge Kreutz


To sexually satisfy a woman, is a male strategy. Women derive a pleasure benefit, and men who have the capability definitely raise their relationships market value, albeit quite possibly only in the mind of the satisfied woman.

While most men are well aware what it needs for them to achieve relationships satisfaction, they lack appallingly in knowledge on what it takes for their female partner to do so as well.

It’s not really the average man’s fault. A young man does not know intuitively what it takes for his female partner to reach a climax. The subject is not taught in school, and even on the Internet, genuine information on the topic is scarce.

The matter often also is taboo among the partners involved, especially in conservative societies. And in modern societies, women normally find it more practical to fake orgasms, or to declare the topic unimportant, rather than to educate their husbands or partners. This is not surprising as the male reaction on being taught by his female partner on this sensitive subject is somehow unpredictable. The man may feel put down if guidance is given. He may believe she thinks he is a bad lover (which actually he may be, indeed), and react hurt or aggressive.

While we have discussed achieving orgasms with many of our relationships partners and therefore believe that we are knowledgeable to a certain degree, competent advice really has to come from women. We therefore include below a detailed account from a female reader on what it takes for her to have orgasms. We do want to invite other female readers to contribute to this database by sending in their own stories. We would be especially interested in comments from lesbian and bisexual women. All contributions are treated with total confidentiality, and names and email addresses will not be given. As the purpose of our endeavor is entirely educational, neutral language would be appropriate.

Here the first account, submitted by a female reader.

I have experienced my first orgasm at 9 or 10 not knowing what the hell it was. It was a result of a movie showing some physical punishment and a bare bottom. It did not happen during the movie, but after I was thinking about it. And it happened without my fingers, just my muscle contractions while tightly squeezing my legs. I remember it very well. Later I learned to imagine variants to what I saw with a pillow between my legs, which always led to orgasms.

I realized the connection between what I experienced and the meanings of relationships at about the same time, I started experimenting with different kinds of stimulations. By 15 I already liked anal stimulation as well as clitoral. I have to say though that if my memory serves me well, those were never really strong orgasms. I started using small objects for anal and vaginal stimulations probably about the same time. I have to say though that now I am not a fan of anal relationships. Although I have tried numerous times, it was always more discomfort than pleasure. I totally gave up with my husband, because he is considerably larger than average size.

As I started having normal and frequent relationships activity with a partner (I was 19), my personal experiences became less elaborate, but definitely better. Still, I very rarely have orgasms alone as strong as with a partner. I prefer having a dildo (not a vibrator, hate those, they are so unnatural) and clitoral stimulation at the same time. As far as the time is concerned, well it differs greatly. It can be one minute, it can be 10, it depends what goes on in my head. I don’t have the same wave pattern orgasms when I am alone. Can’t explain why. I can bring myself to orgasm up to three times alone, but every next one is harder to achieve and not necessarily stronger. It is also absolutely necessary for me to have nipple stimulation. Somehow without it, the whole thing is not as good and not as quick.

I also noticed that the older I am the better the orgasms are that I achieve alone. Still, they are no comparison and no substitution to normal relationships.

I also have to say, that I had one experience with a person I knew well, but not in a relationships way. It was a one night that I wish I did not have. It was so ordinary and almost boring… It strengthened my belief that if the person does not care for you, he cannot bring you pleasure either. He was too excited himself and too quick to finish to bother about what I need. Well, that is another point in favor of not picking up strangers. I expect a lot from a relationships experience, and if I can’t get it, then I am better off alone with my toys, a glass of wine and good porn.

From a previous mail of the same reader:

My first favorite memory was of me being 19. My fiance at the time (I never really planned to marry him, but my parents were head over heels about him) was my partner in experiments. He was 25 and much more experienced than I was, but none of those experiences of his were adventurous. We both shared excitement in domination/punishment scenarios, but I was not ready to experience pain yet. So, he would tie me up (face down), blind-fold and tell me a story while slowly undressing me and barely touching my skin in different places. As the story progressed and I would be melting away, he would have less and less strength to control himself. I would hear grinding teeth, irregular breath and “I can’t go on like this”, but I would normally make him continue anyway. I don’t remember how long this lasted, as long as he could tolerate it, but it would always end with very forceful, even brutal act of love that would have been not unlike rape if I were not so wet and ready. In this situation I would normally have an orgasm in the first 30 seconds after him entering me and the sensation was remarkable.

The strongest orgasm I have had was with my ex-lover, the guy who I was planning to marry and who nearly got control over my feelings. He was not in the least into playing parts and telling stories, but there was another way. He had patience like nobody else I know or heard of. It started with him telling me not to move while he was caressing me. This obviously did not work well. So, eventually he would tie my hands and then work my body in every possible way he knew. The point was in getting me close to orgasm, but never allowing me to actually finish and achieving it by different stimulations. This was mind-warping. He could go for 40 minutes to an hour this way, bringing me close and easing off and repeating it again and again. When finally he would enter, my sensation seemed to have intensified 10 times and orgasms were incredibly strong. I remember once during an orgasm I burst into sobs and actually cried with pleasure. (It is funny to remember because he freaked out thinking he hurt me).

However strong my experiences were before my husband, I still have to say he brought out the real woman in me. He played out my every fantasy and penetrated every part of my body. There was nothing off limits for me, so we tried everything. Most of those wild experiments I never really want to repeat, but I believe that everything should be tried at least once. We got into S&M and I tried both to humble and be humbled. It was interesting to lead, but I absolutely do not enjoy it. My husband does not like to tie me up. So we avoid it. But on the other hand, it is to some extent more stimulating when control that one has over you is mental rather than simple physical constraints. As I said, I don’t like pain, it has to be very, very subtle, not strong, because if it grows beyond a certain point, it does not add to the pleasure, but negates it. We used to play sometimes a spanking game, but in order to enjoy it, I have to be in the mood.

Please, don’t think that I only like relationships in dominance scenarios. It is absolutely not true. It all depends on my mood. Sometimes, especially with a new partner, in order to be comfortable, I would prefer it slow and gentle, with intensity escalating as time progresses. I like to be teased, to not be given everything I want right away… Other times, if I am absolutely turned on by something in circumstances that prohibit immediate satisfaction, the relationships that would follow would be rough, animalistic, resembling more of a fight than a gentle embrace. At such times, I catch myself thinking that human beings did not go far from the animal world in their act of love with biting and roaring and tearing off each other’s clothes. And of course, at other times I can play any of the parts that I described above, I find one or other form of submission very stimulating.

I guess, I should mention something about me that I know sets me apart from a lot of women. Most women are capable of multiple orgasms, but as I read I have a rare ability of what they call wave pattern orgasms: having many of them and often. With the change of stimulation, I can come up to 15 times a night (if a partner can hold up that long). Of course, not all of these orgasms are strong. Most are like reaching the top of the wave and then drifting down and going up again. If all goes well, after 2, 3, 4 orgasms like that, I reach the top of the mountain. My husband prefers to wear me out like this. There were times when he pretty much set experiments on how much I can take. We lost count after 12, so my estimation is 15. It is a great unbelievable feeling after such a night, because the sensation I have is a body without bones, tiredness not unlike total inability to move, the feeling that if I am to die, this is how I would like to go… And when I know it is over and the heart is just slowing down, I close my eyes and feel the world spins into non-existence. Unfortunately this takes incredible amounts of energy from a man, and control for long periods of time, so… you can imagine, this is not an experience I have every week.

I have never had an orgasm as strong with oral stimulation as with vaginal penetration combined with some handwork. Depending on the position, I prefer to do it myself, since I can absolutely control what I need, how much and how fast. I guess this is my preference. I also like and can have an orgasm while giving oral stimulation to my partner (of course not without help from my fingers). This is only possible if it is not a quick thing, I need time. I should say that it might give a fright to a man, since even after doing it for years my hubby says his heart sinks every time expecting my jaws to lock.

As our correspondence went on, I was able to ask some questions: “Do you need manual stimulation in combination with penetration to reach an orgasm, or do you reach it through penetration alone?”

Normally, I do need manual stimulation. But, I have achieved orgasms with penetration alone in the past. It absolutely depends on how aroused I am and what is going on in my head. As explained in my previous message, if I am at the very top of my senses – the touch-me-and-I-will-explode kind of feeling (achieved through any kind of previous stimulation: oral, verbal, caresses of different parts of my body) – then penetration alone can very easily bring me to an orgasm and in a very short period of time. If it does not happen in a short period of time (I imagine 1-2 minutes), then it is a definite that some manual help will be necessary.

“Do you prefer the on-top position?”

2. I almost never achieve an orgasm on top. It only happens if I feel close enough to an orgasm and then finish on top. I find it pretty strenuous to do it long enough to achieve an orgasm. After 3 minutes or so, discomfort starts to take over pleasure. Definitely not my favorite position.

“Can you differentiate between clitoral and vaginal orgasms?”

I can differentiate between clitoral and vaginal orgasms. I would say that most of my orgasms are clitoral; orgasms achieved by masturbation are always clitoral. A large part are what you would call “can’t differentiate” or mixed (those are obviously the ones achieved with penetration). And maybe 5% or less are purely vaginal. I have achieved vaginal orgasms in the past without any manual stimulation in certain positions and certain angles (only with my husband, I think due to his large size) when there is direct contact with the G-spot. I am not saying that I achieved vaginal orgasms only though G-spot stimulation, it happened without it as well, but again, I have to say it is a very rare occurrence. I have no idea how and why sometimes direct contact with the G-spot raises such intensity of feeling, and sometimes it does not. But it is a very unique thing. The same position does not always achieve the same stimulation. When a man happens to get to this remarkable place, my suggestion is – do not breath and don’t move a muscle, keep doing exactly the same thing with exactly the same strength, otherwise it will be lost. Communication here is essential. I would normally say right away “don’t change”, and I can climax within 30-40 seconds. Another thought on the G-spot: I never had a positive experience with it through manual stimulation or object stimulation. I found manual stimulation not just useless, but also uncomfortable.

I also wanted to remark on manual clitoral stimulation. I have never had a really good experience receiving it from a partner. I will explain why. In order for it to be pleasurable, it has to be in exactly the right place, with exactly the right pressure and exactly the right speed. No man can read your mind, and even though I have no problem saying what I need and how, it is hard to explain exactly what you mean. A man can put your finger on the right spot, but I found it extremely hard to control the pressure, especially since one day it should be different from another. If partners have been having relationships for half an hour for example, the clitoris might be more sensitive and need less pressure than in the first minutes. If a woman already achieved one clitoral orgasm, then the pressure should be much, much less than before, again due to sensitivity. The same with the speed, although it is easier to control; what a woman needs can change from the beginning of the stimulation to the end. Too slow is usually pretty irritating rather than stimulating and too fast too soon is also not such a good thing. Well, to complete this, I would say that I prefer to do it myself rather than struggle with guiding somebody else’s hand. I think it is only fair.


Tongkatali.org's In praise of unfaithfulness


By Serge Kreutz


While the punishment for unfaithfulness may vary from one country to another, and has varied throughout the ages, it has always been considered bad, in the same way as betrayal in other areas of social interaction.

On the other hand, it is nothing new for cultures to be based on erroneous beliefs. That erroneous beliefs are shared throughout all cultures doesn’t make them any more true.

A point in case is the belief in ghosts that has been shared by practically all human cultures without ever having had a foundation in reality.

While everybody, at least in public, subscribes to the view that unfaithfulness is bad and a sad reality, I hold that unfaithfulness is a necessity, and that, because it is a necessity, it is something to be viewed positively. Or, in short, it’s good, not bad.

This is an article, not a book. I cannot discuss psychology as such. This would be too large a topic for an article. What I do want to discuss here are some aspects of relationships psychology, which is the most important part of psychology.

I do find it amazing that even though sexuality is the most central thing in human life, high culture pays so little attention to it.

Governments typically do nothing to support the relationships fulfillment of the citizens over whom they rule. If anything, governments aim to restrict the citizens’ relationships freedom whenever it seems to blossom too colorfully.

This is all very sad. Relationships fulfillment is much more important than economic development, or good roads, or health insurance.

Relationships fulfillment is the one and only reason why it can be worth to be alive. Only in relationships fulfillment can we honestly forget the senselessness of our human existence.

Life as such is such a terribly senseless event. In a way, we are but like mice in a treadmill.

Laboratory assistants do not care much whether mice in a treadmill live or die. Actually, they know that it would be best for these mice to be dead rather than alive. Nothing worth living, which they could expect as treadmill mice.

I hold the same view on most of my fellow humans, and, actually, of myself. I am not grateful to my parents for having put me into this world. It wasn’t done as a favor to me, but, at best, an accident, or, rather, an event planned for what they considered a requisite for their own happiness.

I hold that it would be better not to be alive. I couldn’t care less if I were dead tomorrow (but I wish for a comfortable death, please; best would be to die while asleep). The dead are fine. They know no pain.

Don’t get me wrong. I wouldn’t mind to be dead. But I wouldn’t want to enter consciously into a situation that would leave me dead within a short while. This is the paradox of the human mind. We can consciously conclude that it is not worth to be alive, that we were nothing before our birth, and that we will be nothing after our death; we can consciously arrive at the conclusion that the human potential for suffering is so much greater than the human potential for joy, and that indeed, it would be better not to be alive.

And still, most of us, including me, are not capable to just end our lives by swallowing the right dosage of barbiturates, or jumping from a high building, or firing a gun through the brain.

Which shows the limitations of our rationality. That we recognize that we should just commit suicide does not mean that we would be capable to just do it. We are not built to commit suicide. It has been ruled out by genetic makeup.

Fact is that nature has not equipped us with our brains, intellect, and rationality in order to enable us for self-cognition. In Darwinian context, it is clear that our brains, intellect, and rationality evolved for us to be better equipped for the fight for survival. It is for this simple reason that even though we recognize that it would be better to be dead than alive, it is so difficult for us to just say goodbye and step into our graves. Unless we suffer from a mental illness, or find ourselves in an entirely hopeless situation.

So, were do we go from here? Let’s go to bed and have some relationships.

Because we were nothing before our birth, and are nothing after our death, there is so little individual sense in all our striving. Philosophy is a waste of time, and so are careers. Culture and entertainment are dull and worthless.

If anything, then only the short moments of orgasm, and the time we spend being engulfed in relationships desire, are what makes this life bearable, or worthwhile to be lived.

I thoroughly miss national policies, in my native Germany and any other country of the world, which would address the above-mentioned concerns.

And science, too, has the wrong priorities. What the heck do I care about space exploration? Come up with some better explanations, and some workable solutions, in the realm of human sexuality, the one topic that reigns supreme.

While mankind is inundated in a steady oversupply of food, most of us are kept on a strict relationships diet, which is guarded over by the police, priests, and politicians. Damn it.

Relationships satisfaction does not really need to be in short supply. And even the theories are wrong by which a general sexualization of society will lead to general boredom with anything relationships.

Not a general sexualization is what potentially leads to boredom, but the relationships structures that are preserved through every relationships revolution.

The idea, for example, that relationships unions based on faithfulness are the pattern to be desired.

There are many other aspects that are of relevance. But, as I said, this is an article, not a book. So I want to stay focused on just this one aspect: faithfulness.

Boredom is a common feature of relationships unions as they progress in time. Many couples accept this as a natural development. They stay in such unions based on boredom because of a previous pledge or commitment, a sense of responsibility, the economic comfort such an existing union provides, or simply for the lack of better opportunities.

Over time, the boredom-oppressed relationships impulse results in a permanent mental deformation, erectile dysfunction, disorgasmia, depression, obesity, heart disease, and premature death.

No wonder.

But it wouldn’t have to be that way.

Don’t get me wrong. I am not against lasting relationships unions. I myself have always had the best relationships in relationships that have been going on for some time … provided they were not exclusive.

I am a man. It’s easy for me to be unfaithful, to steal an opportunity, to secretly have relationships with a girl other than my principal partner.

I need that, too. But it’s not what I mean.

For me to have some sideline relationships is a minor affair. I enjoy it, but it lacks that all-engulfing capacity. When I’m done, I am relaxed for a while, but the whole thing is short on relevance.

My own being unfaithfulness is not what I mean. What is much more important is the right amount of unfaithfulness on the part of my woman.

Strange? Let me explain.

Our whole relationships function is based on being balanced between two poles, both biologically and psychologically.

Biologically, the poles are the parasympathetic and sympathetic nervous systems.

For erections to occur, the parasympathetic nervous system has to be in the driver’s seat. But orgasms are a major sympathetic event.

Psychologically, we all strive to be winners. But desires flower better in an atmosphere of being, or feeling like, a loser. Ironically, the emotional attraction in gambling is in feeling, and enjoying, loosing, not winning.

The sensation of gambling, this nervousness accompanied by an urge to urinate, is felt only when we lose, or at least feel the immanent danger of losing. Of course, we happily accept it, too, when we win. After all, it enables us to experience losing, and the threat of losing, in another round.

Gamblers are thrill-seekers; they are not out to seek financial gain. They gamble for the same reason for which others engage in motorcycle racing on public roads, and again others jump from bungee towers.

The thrill is present only when we risk a loss; if we cheat in gambling, and are virtually assured of winning, we are calm, and bored. Sorry, no thrill.

For the same reason, my own unfaithfulness often lacks in exciting me.

On the contrary, the unfaithfulness of my women has a great potential to excite me. It makes me jealous, causes me to feel threatened, triggers feelings of inferiority… hey, am I a loser?

Our women are all wrongly educated, and the government, our educational institutions, the guardians of our, and their, culture are at fault… and of course the priests and all those other ideologues who are blind for human life as it is and build castles in the air (no foundation whatsoever in reality).

I like women with strong relationships desires, women (admittedly young women) who would initiate a relationship on their own. I have few sympathies for girls or young women who believe that it is a proper female attitude to have no relationships desires or show no relationships desires.

Funny, but this does not mean that I prefer women or girls who are overly confident of themselves. There has to be an element of insecurity for emotions to be strong.

Virgins who preserve their virginity until they are officially married, are a bore. Such women typically believe they give a man something for which he should be thankful forever: the feeling of being there for him only.

They may give him this feeling alright. But he won’t be thankful forever. Actually, a relationship that starts with a girl surrendering her virginity in the night after a couple was officially married will likely lead to boredom. The man will soon believe that he promised too much.

For a captivating relationships relationship, both partners should have had previous relationships relationships, and these previous relationships should be a topic of communication between them.

It’s the easiest way to introduce a sense of potential defeat, a sense of threat, and a measure of provocation, which can be such a great source of relationships energy.

Because being engulfed in relationships enjoyment is the only escape from the senselessness of human existence, and because relationships enjoyment is only possible on a certain level of relationships tension, and because past and present unfaithfulness of one’s long-term relationships partner is such a great source of relationships tension, I basically have a positive attitude towards the unfaithfulness of a woman with whom I have a steady relationships relationship.

Unfortunately, I haven’t been educated to have this attitude. Our Western relationships culture, and, for that matter, the cultures of all four corners of the earth, train us to view the unfaithfulness of a permanent relationships partner as something that causes us to suffer, not as a potential source of relationships pleasure.

The problem is one of a lack of relationships literacy. People just have so little knowledge about the mechanisms by which their emotions, including their relationships ones, function.

The human emotional apparatus works in a dialectical manner, through provoking forces. And not only the emotional apparatus but the physiological as well.

Take, for example, the endocrine system. Practically every endocrine expression is regulated by its counterforce. The surest way to inhibit the body’s synthesis of testosterone is to supply exogenous testosterone. The technical term is “negative feedback”.

“Negative feedback” is ever present in regulating our daily function. Food stops the desire for food. The surest method to rid somebody of his or her chocolate graving is to let this person eat nothing else but chocolate for a prolonged period of time. If you let that person have other food in between, the craving will persist.

This is accepted psycho-logics. But how about the following:

The surest way to do away with a man’s desire for a particular woman, is to let him just have this women for a prolonged period of time. Which is where the parallelism between chocolate and women ends.

For the surest way to preserve a man’s desire for a particular woman is not for the man to sleep with other woman every now and then, but to have the woman be engaged with another man.

That wakes him up.

But for tapping into the great pool of relationships energy one can derive from one’s partner’s unfaithfulness, it is necessary that this unfaithfulness happens on the basis of trust.

To build trust, unfaithfulness should be extensively discussed before it is implemented. To start with, each one will have to verbally admit relationships fantasies that go beyond one’s established partner. Such fantasies should be related in detail. And be sure that they shake and provoke the listening partner at least as profoundly as they do the one who’s original fantasies they are.

In some cases, especially of younger people, just to discuss each other’s intended unfaithfulness may already be as much as each can stomach.

But to really experience a new dimension of all-engulfing relationships desire, one will have to do it: see one’s permanent partner in excited relationships play with another person, or even join in.

This will be a better cure for relationships boredom (and all its expressions, such as erectile dysfunction, vaginal dryness, anorgasmia, etc.) than any dosage of Viagra.

Only now, when positively jealous, will you discover that you love her. You will be greatly focused on her. You will be able to discuss her feelings for hours on end… her feelings for you, and for him (the other man).

If she is honest and admits to the pleasure it has been to be with the other man, while also assuring you that she has no intention to separate from you, you will find yourself suspended between feeling inferior and feeling proud of your virility. For you will desire her more than you thought of being capable, and you will display great virility, indeed.

You may feel an urge to run away. After all, you have been “betrayed” with another man. Many relationships actually do end on such a note. This is sad, and it happens because of a lack of psychological education.

Occasional open unfaithfulness is such a great, effective measure against “negative feedback” that I regard it as a necessity in building a relationship of genuine love that can last for years, not the kind of pretended love we find in most marriages, which is nothing but boring routine.

I want to live my life in a perpetual state of an all-engulfing relationships desire, with daily peaks of utmost relationships satisfaction. And I want to end life with a comfortable death. All else in life is of subordinate importance.

I live in the awareness that for me personally, there was nothing before my birth, and there is nothing after my death. I feel pity with those toiling along in life, either for personal progress, or the future of their children, or the independence of their nations. I couldn’t care less.

Sometimes I feel envy with those who are already dead. They no longer can suffer. Fact is that our potential for suffering is so much greater than our potential for joy.

I talk of real suffering; the kind that causes physiological pain, or the kind of psychological pain that is caused by incarceration. I explicitly do not include all forms of love pain, which largely depend on attitude and cognition, and actually are a great enrichment if properly understood.

Yes, dying can be one of the most terrible experiences in life; it can be very painful to burn to death, or to be tortured to a slow death by the police, or during a surgical operation for which one is not properly sedated. Some of us are buried alive, and wake up in a coffin that has been put underground.

Indeed, we have all reason to be afraid of dying. We have no reason to be afraid of being dead. Being dead is nothing.

It is the insight that there is nothing in it for me after I have ceased my individual life, and that there is nothing in it for my children and grandchildren after they have ceased their individual lives, which has focused me on the most important aspect of one’s life, which is relationships desire and satisfaction.

And as a logical consequence, I do everything I can to reach a state of heightened relationships desire, including those peaks of relationships satisfaction, while at the same time avoiding the real risk to have a run-in with a police that enforces the laws of a government, which is based on anti-relationships ethics.

I am no longer in my early 20s. There are some biological limitations to me experiencing a state of an all-engulfing relationships desire as well as daily peaks of real relationships satisfaction. These limitations are the result of a nature which has created men not in order to be happy, but in order just to be a stepping stone in the improvement of the human species, and for they are rather useless after having fathered a few offspring during thei peak years between 20 and 30.

I am rebelling against nature, with all means to which I have access. One weapon in the arsenal with which I have experience, is relationships enhancement by pharmacological means and traditional supplements such as tongkat ali (see www.tongkatali.org).

There are many more drugs than just Viagra by which we can modulate ourselves in order to get closer to what we aim at, which is all-engulfing relationships desire and daily peaks of real relationships satisfaction. I have written many articles on the pharmacological modification of our relationships potential.

But we are designed to react not just on chemical impulses; we are designed to strongly react on sensual input. It comes, therefore, to no surprise that purely sensual, non-pharmacological factors can exert a more profound influence.

The sensual input, for example, that results from the awareness that one’s relationships partner is or has been enjoying relationships intercourse with somebody else.

We react profoundly upon hearing about, or seeing, this kind of event: erected body hair in the nape of the neck and down the spine, increased heart beat, emotional stress, aggressiveness, and a strong desire to sexually possess the person who has been sexually unfaithful.

All of that without a pill. A great pool of relationships energy, provided we are capable of managing it.

This can be learned. If only there were people or institutions dedicated to teaching it.

Tongkatali.org's What are psychological calories?


By Serge Kreutz


“Psychological calories” is a new way to look at the nutritional value of food. And “psychological calories” is the reason why you can so easily lose as much weight as you want on the Serge Kreutz diet. We all know that the food we eat can be measured on a calorie scale. Calories are the energy which food provides when being burned in digestion.

Ideally, we should consume food that provides precisely the amount of energy we need for optimal physiological function. Without becoming overweight.

However, humans, and most other animals, lack an organ to sense the energy value of food.

While humans, and other animals, do have sensations related to the consumption of food, the system lacks fine-tuning.

We can feel hunger if we clearly lack food, and we can feel satiation when we have eaten enough or too much. In between these two poles are sensations like appetite (a desire for food because of its palatability) and food aversions (because we associate it with events of physical or mental discomfort).

All of this is very psychological, and much more complex than, for example, feeling too hot or too cold, or energetic or tired.

However, conventional nutritional science, as well as all so-far devised weight loss diets, have failed to take into account the psychological satiation value of food.

One thing is sure: the psychological satiation value of food and the burn value of food do not match. And it is the awareness of this discrepancy that makes the Serge Kreutz diet so successful.

The Serge Kreutz diet teaches you to differentiate between the conventional nutritional value of food (the energy value) and the psychological nutritional value of food (the taste pleasure that food provides).

Food cravings and overeating all have very little to do with the conventional nutritional value of food. They are totally psychological.

Your stomach and intestines never have a craving for food. Anyway, from the esophagus onwards, there are no taste receptors. If anything, your stomach and intestines would have been grateful if you would not have stuffed them with all that shit you have been eating all life long.

Your stomach and intestines would prefer a light burden, without all those irritants you have given them to digest because of their pleasant taste.

The Serge Kreutz diet is an entirely new approach to food consumption.

It starts with strictly treating separately the food for your stomach and intestines on the one side (conventional nutrition), and the food for your mouth and brain on the other side (the food that you eat for pleasure).

You can eat any food for its pleasure value, and as much of it as you want.

Just don’t swallow. Discard not into your esophagus. Discard into a plastic bag.

The barrier that you erect is not the lips and teeth of your mouth. The barrier must be your throat.

You can let plain water pass, as much as you desire, or even more than that. For anything else, use strict control. A little fruit every day, some nuts, a small egg yolk, minimal quantities of other food that slide down your throaf even though you would prefer to discard in the other direction.

Psychological calories, on the other hand, you can eat as many as your heart and brain desire. You can play with the many exciting tastes of food all day long. No restrictions. Anyway, as I have elaborated in other articles, the tastes of delicious foods are a smart drug, and the best antidepressant of all.

Just stay with kreutzing it all. Don’t swallow.

I guarantee you will have more pleasure from food than ever before. And you will maintain ideal body weight, without any real effort.



Butea superba and a sense of relationships accomplishment


By Serge Kreutz


Butea Superba Research, 2019


Feeling great from great relationships is different from feeling great from drugs.

Sure, drugs can make you feel good, somehow. But I am not even convinced that this is true.

Certainly, if you are addicted to nicotine, smoking cigarettes makes you feel better. And if you are addicted to heroin, it's the same.

I don't smoke. I did as a boy, but stopped it when I decided that good relationships is the only thing I care for.

I am sure that good relationships feels good. I am not sure whether marijuana, LSD, smoked opiates, amphetamines, and cocaine actually do.

Sure, these substances all make me feel something. Amphetamines and cocaine make me feel excited in a positive mood. But the stimulation also feels fake.

Most certainly, opiates reduce pain sensation. For pain management, they are a necessity.

But when on opiates, I also know that I am not competitive. Consuming opiates is like opting out. Like deciding that I will be not just a junkie, but human junk. Not worthy anybody's love.

And the same self-reflection applies when drunk.

I have long stopped consuming alcohol. I prefer to solve my problems, rather than drown them. And I want to be worthy of love, and I want good relationships.

There is a fundamental difference between drugs and herbals for better relationships. On the face of it, cocaine and butea superba seem similar because both influence libido. But the fundamental difference is that cocaine substitutes natural libido, and butea superba just supports it.

And one more thing here. I remember the first time I had non-penetrative relationships as a teenager, and I remember the first time I had full relationships intercourse.

The kick that I got out of this was profound. It lasted much longer than the physical sensation. It lasted for days, even weeks. It was a sense of accomplishment. This were achievements that defined me as a person. I did it!

But with street drugs, even when they feel good, I sense that I am a failure.

Now I am much older. But I can, sometimes, still sense relationships achievement.

If my relationships desire is sufficient, I have great relationships and sound erections without Viagra or similar stuff. And orgasms that make my heart beat deep.

The whole thing takes a bit longer. That's great. I want it to last. Most girls or women prefer this anyway (I am not consorting prostitutes, who see economic advantage when customers who frequent them are done quickly... Time is money).

Viagra and Cialis are crutches. They make relationships possible but not good. Orgasms are weaker, and the sense of accomplishment is lacking.

I know that the problem of most men with erectile dysfunction isn't one of the organ. It's a problem of the mind, an absence of enough relationships desire.

And that's why butea superba, best in combination with tongkat ali, is way better than Viagra and co. Long live good relationships!



Further improvement for your quest for relationships desire at any age


By Serge Kreutz


Advanced-age relationships desire and relationships function, 2019


You know what is missing in your life as you get older. You are missing a sense of purpose felt in younger years.

In younger years you knew why you wanted to progress in your career and you knew why you wanted to earn more money.

Yeah, it was all about landing better relationships. You reckoned that in a better social position and with more money, you'd hsve a better relationships market value.

Now you actually have progressed in your career, and now you have achieved a certain level of wealth.

But for what? You are stuck on a relationships status quo. And you don't have that drive anymore for better relationships in the future.

That's what is making you old, regardless of your physical condition.

So, how to solve this problem of a lack of relationships motivation?

Look at science. Relationships motivation is mediated by two substances that circulate in your body: testosterone throughout, and dopamine in the brain.

And yes, you con work on body and brain chemistry with chemical substances, that's the basis of pharmacology.

Unfortunately, an all-out pharmaceutical solution for a lack of relationships desire hasn't been developed yet.

But in the meantime, you can turn to a number of phytochemicals.

Your best bet, I believe, is a combination of tongkat ali with butea superba, which has become the main product of Sumatra Pasak Bumi. Their website is https://tongkatali.org.

They have been the world's foremost relationships enhancement company for three decades. Their tongkat ali / butea superba blend, however, has been developed only in 2017.

Nevertheless, if you run a Google search for "tongkat ali butea superba" you will see an increasing number of references to the superiority of the combination.

You are lacking relationships motivation. That is miserable because actually, relationships motivation should crown your existence.

It's not acceptable, so you have to do something about it.



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Chan, E. Y., Zlatevska, N. (2019) Is meat sexy? Meat preference as a function of the relationships motivation system Food Quality and Preference Volume 74, Pages 78-87

Enema, O.J. Umoh, U.F., Umoh, R.A. Ekpo, E.G. Adesina, S.K., Eseyin, O.A. (2018) Chemistry and Pharmacology of Aphrodisiac Plants: A Review. Journal of Chemical and Pharmaceutical Research Volume 10 Issue 7, Pages 70-98

Evolution of Desire, The David M Buss Encyclopedia of Evolutionary Psychological Science, 1-5, 2016

Hendrickx, L., Gijs, L., Enzlin, P. (2018) Age-related prevalence rates of relationships difficulties, relationships dysfunctions and relationships distress in heterosexual men: results from an online survey in Flanders. Relationships and Relationship Therapy Pages 1-22

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Kotirum, S., Ismail, S.B., Chaiyakunapruk, N. (2015) Efficacy of Tongkat Ali (Eurycoma longifolia) on erectile function improvement: Systematic review and meta-analysis of randomized controlled trials. Complementary therapies in medicine Volume 23 Issue 5, Pages 693-698

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